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Ask a Man 08 May '25: 'Should I tell my partner he might not be the father?.

Anonymous says she’s in her late twenties and she’s been in a relationship with her partner for about four years but it’s been messy because her partner cheated on her a few times and she forgave him.  Anonymous says she then met another guy while in a relationship with her partner and decided to have an affair with this guy, in retaliation to her partner’s infidelities.  Anonymous says she’s now pregnant but she’s not sure who the father of the child is. Anonymous says her side piece is aware that it’s possible that he’s not the father but her partner has no idea and he’s just happy to build a family with her.  Anonymous is not sure how to move forward.

Ask a Man 07 May '25: 'Can I trust my ex again.'

Anonymous says he’s been with his girlfriend since 2020 and they have two year-old child together.  Anonymous says at some point he lost his job and this when his partner’s behaviour changed. Anonymous says one of the problems he’s found is that his girlfriend has been having relations with other guys while they’ve been together.  Anonymous says he’s now working again and he’s even thinking of marrying his girlfriend but he’s struggling to trust her and is not sure if she can be the right wife for him. 

Ask a Man 06 May '25: 'My partner is always on and off.'

Anonymous says he’s been in an on and off situation with his partner for a while now. Anonymous says she cheated on him early on in their relationship but he ended up forgiving her and even considered getting married to her.  Anonymous says they then ran into some trouble when they tried to conceive a child and even lost a baby, but anonymous says during that grieving period he found out that she cheated on him with the same guy again. Anonymous says they eventually broke up.  Anonymous says despite them breaking things off he’s struggling to let it go and she keeps coming back into his life. Anonymous says she’s to always come back into his life when he’s busy with someone else, but then disappears when he starts giving her attention again.

Ask a Man 05 May '25: 'Should I support my ex wife's child.'

Anonymous says when he met his current wife 9 years ago, she had a 1 year-old child. Anonymous says since then he has raised this child as his own.  Anonymous says they are currently separated after he found out that his wife was flirting with a colleague. Anonymous says they are now officially separated however he feels like he shouldn’t be the one to financially support the child as he’s no longer in a relationship with the mother.  Anonymous says they do have one other child together, and he’s only willing to support this child, as the other child has their own father and his estranged wife now has another partner. Anonymous is wondering if he’s taking the right approach to the situation.

Ask a Man 02 May '25: 'Will we never heal from the infidelity in our relationship?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years, and her current relationship overlapped with her previous relationship.  Anonymous says early in their relationship her partner found out that she was still dating her ex partner. Anonymous says they fought about this and she finally broke up with her ex. Anonymous says their relationship continued but her partner also cheated on her, and said she did it because she struggled to get over the fact that anonymous had cheated.  Anonymous says her partner has struggled to get over the initial cheating and they keep fighting about it. Anonymous says her partner broke up with her yesterday and she’s not sure if she should fight for her. 

Ask a Man 30 April '25: 'My daughter is bewitching my current wife.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they have a 14-year age gap between them.  Anonymous says they’ve been speaking about their future and it looks like they could get married but her partner already has 3 children from his previous 3 relationships and he doesn’t seem keen to have more children.  Anonymous says she wants to be with him and build a future with him, but feels like even if he were to have a child with her, he would be doing it reluctantly.

Ask a Man 29 April '25: 'My partner is not keen to have more children with me.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they have a 14-year age gap between them.  Anonymous says they’ve been speaking about their future and it looks like they could get married but her partner already has 3 children from his previous 3 relationships and he doesn’t seem keen to have more children.  Anonymous says she wants to be with him and build a future with him, but feels like even if he were to have a child with her, he would be doing it reluctantly.

Ask a Man 25 April '25: 'Will my partner break up with his other girlfriend?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for about 3 years and says when they started dating he didn’t tell her that he was in a relationship with someone else. Anonymous says after she got suspicious, he confessed to her that he does have another partnerback home, where he comes from.  Anonymous says she’s known about the other girl for about a year now and says despite their relationship being great, she’s not comfortable with him having another partner.  Anonymous says he has said that he plans to leave the other woman, but it still hasn’t happened.

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Ask a Man 17 April '25: 'My partner's best friend wants to expose our affair.'

Anonymous says he’s been dating a lady, who’s married to someone else, for about 5 years now. Anonymous says when he told her about his dreams to open his own business, she volunteered to raise the funds for him for the business.  Anonymous says they got the funding but he didn’t want  to have the business registered in both their names as he was scared of what could happen if the lady’s husband found out about their affair. Anonymous says they decided to register the business under his name and this lady’s best friend’s name.  Anonymous says time went by and the lady is now looking to divorce her husband, the problem is now the lady’s best friend…

Ask a Man 16 April '25: 'My partner is back, but I've met someone else.'

Anonymous says after being single for two years, he met a guy in September last year, and two weeks into their relationship, the guy told him that he had a spiritual calling and would be going to initiation for about 6 months.  Anonymous says the guy wasn’t allowed to have visitors while at initiation but they kept in contact by calling each other. Anonymous says the guy was then not allowed to take calls and this affected their relationship, leaving anonymous feeling lonely.  Anonymous says during this time he met someone else, guy no.2,  and they instantly fell in love. Anonymous says he’s in a relationship with guy no.2.

Ask a Man 15 April ‘25: ‘Constant fights with my partner led me to cheat.’

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about two years now. They never moved in together but would stay at each other’s places for extended periods. Anonymous says his partner got into the habit of leaving his place and staying at her own place every time they fight. Anonymous says during one of the times his partner moved out he started entertaining another lady who he says became a confidant to him, anonymous says he eventually slept wit this lady and when he didn’t continue the relationship with this lady, she shared screen shots of their chats with anonymous’ partner. Anonymous says his partner is obviously upset about the chats that she’s seen and they are currently fighting about this. Anonymous says he loves his partner and he’s not sure on how to go about repairing their relationship.

Ask a Man 14 April '25: 'My partner is financially irresponsible.'

Anonymous says she’s known her husband for 8 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years. Anonymous says her relationship with her partner is toxic and says the biggest issue is finances.  Anonymous says she earns more than her partner and says he also doesn’t contribute much to their household finances. Anonymous says she feels like she has been financially and verbally abusive towards her partner, calling him useless for not taking care their family.  Anonymous says it’s not that he earns less, it’s that he doesn’t spend much money on their family, and has instead accumulated a lot of debt.  Anonymous says she feels like she needs to end the relationship but her heart won’t let go and she can’t financially afford to leave the relationship right now.

Ask a Man 11 April '25: 'My partner found nudes of my and I on my phone.'

Anonymous says her partner recently went through her phone and found nude pictures of her with her ex on her phone.  Anonymous says her partner was upset after finding the pictures, which were recently sent by her ex. Anonymous says her partner also saw a message where she suggested to her ex that they have a threesome.  Anonymous says they went to therapy to try and resolve this issue, however, in a recent incident, her partner tried to call her but he got upset when he couldn’t reach anonymous because he just imagined that anonymous was busy with the ex.  Anonymous says her partner has been deeply affected by this and seems to be pulling away from her. Anonymous says she’s serious about him and doesn’t know how they can move forward from this. 

Ask a Man 9 April '25: 'My partner has been great but i've just found out she's married.'

Anonymous says he has been dating his partner for about 3 years now and says she has been very supportive of him from the time they started dating as he had just graduated.  Anonymous says he got into the e-hailing business and when he decided to start driving his own car, she helped him get the car and they agreed that he would pay her back for the car and they would change the ownership of the car to his name later.  Anonymous says he has since got two more cars on his own but when he tried to change the ownership of the first car from his partner’s name to his own name, she was avoiding doing this, which led to him checking the details of the car, and that’s when he found out that the car is owned by his partner’s husband, and he had no idea that she was even married.  Anonymous is worried about the car situation but he’s also not comfortable with continuing the relationship with his partner knowing that she’s married.

Ask a Man 10 April '25: 'Obsessed with my toxic partner.'

Anonymous says he met a guy last year and they’ve been dating since then. Anonymous says everything was fine until the guy started acting strange.   Anonymous says they once had a conflict & as they were in middle of the fight his partner decided he was leaving, and some other guy came to pick up his partner and they left anonymous at his place.  Anonymous says he tracked his partner on his phone and noticed that his partner went to the other guy’s place. Anonymous also says he found pictures of his partner with that guy looking cozy on the beach.  Anonymous says they met up days later and he confronted his partner about this. Anonymous says his partner was ignoring him, focusing on his phone and this led to them getting into a physical fight.  Anonymous says his partner pressed assault charges against him and he ended up in jail for weeks, before his partner dropped the charges.  Anonymous says his partner reached out to him and they’ve rekindled their relationship. Anonymous says it seems his partner is still hooking up with other people, but despite this he is struggling to let him go. 

Ask a Man 08 April '25: 'He doesn't like when I bring up his cheating.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years but says they’ve had an issue with infidelity in their relationship since the very beginning. Anonymous says she’s always finding texts on his phone of him chatting with other girls and flirting with them. She says she’s confronted him about this several times, but it keeps happening.  Anonymous says in the middle of all of this he doesn’t want her to chat with other guys. Anonymous says there’s also a particular girl who he can’t seem to let go of.  Anonymous says he is now accusing her of bringing up the past every time she brings up what he did with those other girls.

Ask a Man 07 April '25: 'Caught between a scammer & a ghoster'

Anonymous says she met a guy no.1 in January and things quickly sparked between them, and the guy moved into her place soon after they started dating.  Anonymous says the guy lies a lot, for starters, he lied about his age, saying he’s in his early thirties but it turned out he’s actually in his early twenties. Anonymous says though he seemed to have a proper job she’s also realised that he might be scamming people on social media.  Anonymous says guy no.2 is someone she was with before guy no.1, she says he’s trying to get back into her life even though he had ghosted her when they dated previously. Anonymous says guy no.2 has seemingly changed and there could be a chance to rekindle things with him.

Ask a Man 04 April '25: 'Why is he still following his ex?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years, they live together, their families know about each other, and their relationship is moving in the marriage direction.  Anonymous says she recently had a dream that there is something funny happening in their relationship, after this, anonymous says she looked through his phone and found that he’s still following his ex on Tik Tok and has liked all 11 of her posts.  Anonymous says they already had a fight about him following his ex on social media and she thought this was resolved. Anonymous says she’s now confused on how to feel about this.

Ask a Man 03 April '25: 'I want to marry her but her family is a problem.'

Anonymous says he met his current partner 8 years ago, after being single for 3 years. Anonymous says they started dating soon after meeting.  Anonymous says his partner came into their relationship with two children and they have since had four more children together, she is currently pregnant with twins.  Anonymous says that the problem in their relationship seems to be his partner’s family as they tend to meddle into their relationship. Anonymous says currently he’s trying to get married to his partner but there are some wranglings regarding the lobola amount anonymous must pay…

Ask A Man 02 April '25: He's not ready to be a family man.'

Anonymous says she’s a mother of two and she broke up with the father of her children back in 2015. Anonymous says she met another guy shortly after this but the relationship failed because she didn’t want the guy to meet her kids as they were young.  Anonymous says she waited for her kids to grow before dating again and she’s now in a relationship with someone who she has introduced to her kids and they’ve been together for a while now, but anonymous says she feels like he’s closed off and doesn’t share his true feelings. Anonymous says she feels like he’s not emotionally mature enough to be a family man, as he also has a terrible relationship with his own family.  Anonymous says even though he’d like to have a child with her, she’s also realised that he’s lacking when it comes to having paternal instincts.

Ask A Man 1 Apr '25: 'Did I push him to cheat on me?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for a year and after he lost his job last November, the partner moved back to his home town.  Anonymous says after their relationship became long distant, they began to struggle with communication and anonymous says she ended up pushing him away, as she was hiding somethings from him.  Anonymous says this caused a rift between them and he ended having a relationship with someone else and impregnating that person. Anonymous says the guy has told her that he does love the girl he’s impregnated, adding that he’d like to date both anonymous and the other girl.  Anonymous doesn’t know what to do.

Ask A Man 31 Mar '25: 'My children miss their home, should I get back together with him?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her husband for 17 years since they were in high school and they’ve been married for about 8 years.  Anonymous says post high school she studied further, got her qualifications and has been financially stable since then, on the other hand she says her husband lacks ambition and hasn’t worked much this whole time that they’ve been together, which means she’s been supporting their household, which now includes two children as well.  Anonymous says she eventually broke things off with him as things got toxic in their home but eventually got back together with him. Anonymous says their relationship never really got better and describes her husband as being emotionally and financially abusive…

Ask a Man 28 Mar '25: 'Why can't I get over my side?'

Anonymous says she’s been in a relationship with her partner for 3 years and says their relationship couldn’t be better, however, anonymous says she started cheating on her partner, with someone who lives on the same street as her mother.  Anonymous says she then found out that her side piece was cheating on her and they broke things off. Anonymous says even though things are great with her partner, she finds herself hurt by what happened with her side piece and she’s struggling to let her go.  Anonymous says she is really happy with her partner and doesn’t want to leave her.

Ask a Man 27 Mar '25: 'Caught between choosing my friend or his ex.'

Anonymous says his friend broke up with his partner 2 months ago, after the break up, anonymous says he started chatting with his partner’s ex and they hit things off.  Anonymous says things quickly got serious between him and his friend’s ex and that’s when he decided to tell his friend that he’d like to his ex. Anonymous says his friend told him he doesn’t approve of this relationship and their friendship would be over if anonymous continued to date his ex.  Anonymous says they have slept with each other’s flings in the past, so he thought his friend would be ok with this.  Anonymous says he’s not sure who to choose, as he’s in love with his friend’s ex but also finds some value in his friendship, as they are a part of a group of friends.

Ask a Man 26 Mar '25: 'Things changed after I moved close to him.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they’ve known each other for about 10 years altogether.  Anonymous says they were initially in a long-distance relationship and things were great but his behaviour changed when she moved to the same area as him.  Anonymous says she feels like even though she’s goegraphically closer now, he doesn’t pay much attention to her, shows little support and hardly initiates conversations with her.  Anonymous says they don’t even talk much now and she doesn’t know what to do.

Ask a Man 25 Mar '25: 'How to tell my partner I impregnated my side.'

Ask a Man 24 Mar '24: 'My partner says I'm using him for money.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years and everything was fine between them from the on set but things changed after she became pregnant.  Anonymous says after finding out about the pregnancy they moved in together but his character changed and they started fighting a lot, to a point that he moved out of their place.  Anonymous says most recently he asked him for money to do a pregnancy scan but this turned into a fight and her partner accused her of using him for his money, saying anonymous doesn’t even care about his kids.  Anonymous says she doesn’t know where that is coming from as she’s never relied on him financially and in fact he was unemployed when they started dating.

Ask a Man 20 March '25: 'In love with someone I've never met.'

Anonymous says mid last year she found a lady on social media who she liked but only DM’d her earlier this in January and confessed her feelings.  Anonymous says it turned out the lady also liked her and so they started dating online, as they’ve never met. Anonymous says their relationship was going well until Anonymous wasn’t in a good mood one day and took those emotions out on the lady.  Anonymous says things weren’t the same since that day, and the lady eventually broke things off with her. Anonymous doesn’t know what to do as she loves this lady a lot!

Ask a Man - 19 March '25: 'My partner is too controlling.'

Anonymous says she met guy no.1 last year at her new church after moving to a new province. Anonymous says they started dating shortly after their first interaction.  Anonymous says things were good between them until she went back home to visit and says when she came back to her new area she realised that his energy had changed, and upon searching on his phone, she found that he was still chatting to and spending time with  other girls.  Anonymous confronted him about this and he explained that he did already have thing with one of the girls while they started with their thing…

Ask A Man 18 March '25: 'My partner is in love with me but I'm not sure.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her current partner for 5 years and says he’s a great partner and takes care of her, and he’s even paid lobola for her.  Anonymous says her problem is she feels a void in her relationship, and says there’s no spark and passion, it’s just boring. Anonymous says she likes him but doesn’t think he’s the one.  Anonymous says one of the issues in their relationship is that they don’t have a good communication.  Anonymous is not sure if she should fight for the relationship or just break up with him.

Ask a Man 17 Mar '25: 'All men cheat.'

Anonymous says she met her current husband when they were in high school, but they couldn’t really be together at the time. Anonymous says over the years they’d meet up and hook up, but never really became official.  Anonymous says they went their separate ways at some point and during that time she  had a baby with someone else. Anonymous says they eventually got together and they got married.  Anonymous says her partner used to cheat on her a lot with different people, and says she initially brushed it off as something men do, but as time went by it became too much for her, and she separated from her husband. Anonymous says he’s been asking her to forgive him for a while now, and she’s not sure if she should get back together with him.

Ask a Man 14 March '25: 'My partner is in love with her ex.'

Anonymous says he met a lady in 2023 and their relationship was soaring until the father of her child, who wasn’t present when anonymous met the lady, came back into the picture last December. Anonymous says the lady started communicating more with the father of her child at that point. Anonymous says the lady then attend a family funeral after the the father of her child’s brother past away. This led to the lady rekindling things with the father of her child and she essentially got back together with him.

Ask a Man 13 March '25: 'I had a baby with my partner's friend.'

Anonymous says he and his girlfriend started dating in 2018 and he says he was clear from the onset that he wants to have a child, she was ok with that only if they got married first, something anonymous says he wasn’t ready for.  Anonymous says years later he started having an affair with one of his partner’s friends and that went on secretly for a while. Anonymous says he brought up having a child again, and again his girlfriend said no and told him he could go outside and impregnate someone else.  Anonymous says after the fight with his girlfriend, he slept with the friend without protection and she fell pregnant with his child.  Anonymous says he confessed this to his partner and after meeting with her family they ended up breaking things off, but anonymous has now managed to patch things up with his girlfriend who says she’ll only get back together with him on one condition…

Ask a Man 12 March '25: 'Is he only with me because he needs my support?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 6 years, they have a child together and she came into their relationship with another child. Anonymous her partner is terrible with money and doesn’t include her in his financial decisions when he has money.  Anonymous says before he lost his job and didn’t have money, he would go out partying with friends and would cheat on her, but come back crying for forgiveness.  Anonymous says he’s now unemployed and broke and his behaviour has changed, he’s a better partner, shows her love and things are generally good.  Anonymous is worried that once he’s back on his feet, he’ll go back to his old ways and she’s no sure if she should leave him even though things are great right now.

Ask a Man 11 March '25: 'He said we couldn't be together because of his religion'

Anonymous says she met a guy while working at a religious organisation years ago and something developed between them but before anything could happen the guy told anonymous that they couldn’t be together due to his position in the organisation.  Anonymous says the guy married someone else about a year later after he told her they couldn’t be. By the time he got married, anonymous had already moved to another province because of work.  Anonymous says she also got married, and after some time the guy contacted anonymous and told her that he missed her and was sorry for everything that happened.  Anonymous says he told her that he was willing to divorce his wife for her but he couldn’t because of his position. Anonymous says they met up and their relationship got sexual but the guy started avoiding her after this.  Anonymous says it’s been a year since he started ignoring her, but she’s struggling to get over him.

Ask A Man 10 March '25: 'Dating guys that are with other people'

Anonymous says she met a guy a month ago and they immediately hit things off. Anonymous says three days into the relationship she snooped around and found out from one her friends that the guy is dating one of her friends in their neighbourhood.  Anonymous says she confronted him about this, however, they’ve continued to date as she says he won’t let her go. Anonymous says she also wants to break things off with him because he might be involved in dodgy businesses.  Anonymous says she also has another guy that she dated previously, who she really likes, but he is married.   Anonymous says dating is showing her flames and she doesn’t know what to do.

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Ask a Man 06 March '25: 'I'm addicted to my abusive partner.'

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about 5 years, they live together and he’s even paid lobola partially. Anonymous says his partner was pregnant at some point but unfortunately she had a stillbirth. Anonymous says things changed in their relationship from this point. Anonymous says she started drinking and partying more, and would blame anonymous for her stillbirth. Anonymous says he broke things off with her because it was too much but got back together with her months later after she asked him to forgive her.  Anonymous says she continued to be messy and he has now moved out again. Anonymous says he loves her and still wants to be with her but he’s not sure if it can work between them.

Ask A Man 05 March '25: 'I need closure from my cheating partner.'

Anonymous says she met her partner in late 2023, she says they started as friends and it eventually turned into a romantic relationship. Anonymous says from the onset, they were honest with each other, had great communication and even shared about their past relationship traumas.   Anonymous says things have now taken a turn in their relationship after she found suspicious texts between him and another lady on his phone. Anonymous says she confronted him about this, he said they would talk about it, but that’s never happened.  Anonymous says the communication in their relationship has broken down and she doesn’t understand where they are at in their relationship.  Anonymous just wants him to be open and honest with her so she can better understand what’s happening between them.

Ask A Man 04 March '25: 'I love him but I'm tired of being a side.'

Anonymous says she met a guy 4 years ago and 5 months into their relationship he told her that he was in a relationship with someone else, after initially denying this fact. Anonymous says he told that her was with the mother of his child and they live together but their relationship is not great.  Anonymous says despite this fact, he’s a great partner who takes care of her and is always there for her which makes it so difficult to leave him.  She says 4 years later she doesn’t even know where he lives, he’s promised her that their relationship will eventually turn into something more but she’s not tired of the situation.

Ask a Man 03 March '25: 'Was I right for leaving my roller coaster of a relationship.'

Anonymous says he his ex partner in varsity in 2019 and they started dating back then. Anonymous says post varsity, they moved in together and he was taking care of both of them financially at the time.  Anonymous says their relationship was tumultuous, there was infidelity and lots of other conflicts in their relationship.  Anonymous says he then got a job opportunity in another area and their relationship became long distant. This added fuel to the fire and they ended up breaking up.  Anonymous suspects that she might have been cheating on him while they were still together. He’s tried to get back together with her, but it hasn’t worked out.  Anonymous wonders if he did the right thing by giving up on their relationship, especially because they have a child together.

Ask a Man 28 Feb '25: 'I think my man wants to be a house husband.'

Anonymous called last year and told us that her husband can’t seem to keep a job as he finds jobs and then resigns unreasonably after a short period of working.  At the time anonymous was advised to stand by her man, bring in the family and also check if there could be witchcraft involved.  It’s 7 months later since she called Ask a Man and she says she’s tried all that and it doesn’t seem to be helping. Anonymous says she wants to give up now.

Ask A Man 27 Feb '25: 'How do I leave my cheating partner?'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years now and and she gave birth to their child late last year.  Anonymous says after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her. Anonymous says they patched things up after the infidelity, however, she’s struggling to move on from the cheating.  Anonymous says she still loves him and wants to be with him but needs help with forgiving him and moving on from his cheating.

Ask A Man 26 Feb '25: 'My husband is great but I'm in love with someone else.'

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 10 years and they’ve known each from childhood as they grew up in the same area.  Anonymous says a few years ago, while her and her husband were going through a rough patch, she met someone else and says the connection with this person was strong and passionate.  Anonymous says they’ve eventually worked things out with her husband and she agreed with her husband to let the  other guy go and focus on them.  Anonymous says she never really stopped thinking about this other guy and he has now made contact with her after about a year and a half, and their connnection is very intense. Anonymous says things are great with her husband but she feels like the other guy could be the one and wonders if she can live with never trying with this guy.

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Ask A Man 25 Feb '25: 'My partner doesn't want to be married in community of property.'

Anonymous has currently been with his partner of 10 years and they are in a customary marriage. Anonymous says his partner only realised after the fact that because they completed the lobola process they couldn’t sign a prenup as they are already in a customary marriage.  Anonymous says his partner said at the time that she would never be happy in their relationship as she wanted to be married out of community of property because she doesn’t want anonymous’ children to benefit from her assets.  Anonymous says years later his partner separated from him as she wasn’t happy. Anonymous says time has gone by and his partner is still saying she’s not ready to get back together with him.

Ask A Man 24 Feb '25: 'My disappearing partner.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 10 years and he’s paid half the lobola to her family and 3 years ago and they now also have a child.  Anonymous says her partner once cheated on her and after going their separate ways for about 6 months because of this, she eventually forgave and they got back together.  Anonymous says it’s years later now and he’s been acting dodgy over the last few months. Anonymous says he tends to go out with friends and disappear on her without explanation. Anonymous says they fought about his behaviour last week and he left again and as it stands right now he doesn’t know where he is.  Anonymous says she doesn’t know if she should stay in this relationship, as she suspects that he could be cheating on her again.

Ask A Man 21 Feb. '25: 'Scared of getting back together.'

Anonymous says he met his ex wife 20 years ago in varsity and they immediately clicked but things came to an end when she dropped out of school. They reconnected 15 years later and ended u getting married.  Anonymous says their relationship was great, however they went through a lot: she lost her parents in consecutive years and he got sick. Anonymous says it became a lot on them and they ended up divorcing.  Anonymous says some time has gone by and they started talking to each other again and sparks are flying. Anonymous says they could get back together, but he’s not sure if he can risk  his heart.

Ask A Man 20 Feb '25: 'I think my partner hates my son.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 5 years, they’ve been living with each other for 3 years and they have a 1 year-old child.  Anonymous says she has an 8 year-old child and spoke to him about her child moving from her grandmother and living with them. Anonymous says her partner then went home to see his family and when he came back earlier this year, anonymous’ older child had moved in to their place.  Anonymous says since he’s been back, he’s been offish and she thinks he doesn’t like her older son. This tension led to them fighting and anonymous eventually moved out of that place and back to her own house.  Anonymous says they are not really speaking and are even making arrangements for visitations. Anonymous is not sure how to move forward

Ask A Man 19 Feb '25: 'Is he just dominant or controlling?'

Anonymous saying she’s recently moved to a new city  and then things ended in her relationship with her previous partner because of the distance.  Anonymous says she’s now met someone new, soon after the break-up, but feels like maybe she’s rushing into things after the break up.  Anonymous says she feels like the new guy is different to the other guys she’s dated. She feels like he’s dominant, but also bordering on being controlling. Anonymous is not sure if she’s just feeling this way because she’s fresh from a break-up.

Ask A Man 18 Feb '25: 'Why do I keep attracting the wrong type of guy?'

Anonymous called last year having troubles in her relationship and adding that she would like to be in a throuple type of situation where she would be with her man, at the time, and another woman, all dating each other at the same time. Anonymous says after calling into the show, she decided to take a break to work on herself, as she felt like she was attracting the same type of guys she doesn’t want to be with.  Anonymous says she’s been doing well on this journey but now feels like she’s still attracting the same type of men that she feels are not good for her and treat her poorly…

Ask a Man 17 Feb '25: 'I have evidence but he denies cheating on me.'

Anonymous says she met and started dating her partner in 2020. Anonymous says a year later in 2021 the guy started the lobola process in order to marry her.   Anonymous says they were blessed with a baby in 2022, but after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her while she was at home nursing their new baby.  Anonymous says they separated after the infidelity incident, and got back together after family intervention months later. Anonymous says she’s recently given birth to their child.  Anonymous says her partner is now currently driving her car but she’s noticed, via tracker, that he’s been making some questionable trips to BNBs and when she tracked him down and confronted him about this, he denied having an affair…

Ask A Man 14 Feb '25: 'Am I expecting too much as a side?'

Anonymous says she’s speaking on her friend’s behalf…  Anonymous says she met a guy who’s son plays soccer with her son. They knew each other but only started talking when the guy gave anonymous a lift with her son to soccer practice.  Anonymous says the lifts continued and feelings grew between them, even though the guy has a girlfriend. Anonymous says they caught feelings for each other and started having a relationship.  Anonymous says the problem is that he tends to disappear on him and then comes back all lovey lovey. Anonymous is not sure how to deal with the situation.

Ask a Man 13 Feb '25: 'My partner is offering money for me to money to stay with him.'

Anonymous says she’s been dating a guy for about 2 months, after meeting him in November last year. Anonymous says she started dating this guy a while after her previous relationship with her ex who says is a narcissist.  Anonymous says weeks into the relationship he started showing signs of narcissism. She says his behaviour is reminding her of her ex and it’s turning her off. Anonymous says she’s slowly fazed him out of her life and he’s been trying to get back in.  Anonymous says he has now resorted to saying that it’s ok if they don’t to date, they can just have sexual relationship and he’ll pay her for this.  Anonymous says she still kind of likes him and finds herself confused by this offer and the meaning of their relationship.

Ask A Man 12 Feb '25: 'My partner has made me responsible for his kids.'

Anonymous says she has two kids from different fathers and says she’s now in a new relationship with a new guy who she says loves her and her kids.  Anonymous says things have been going well in their relationship until the mother of her partner’s two children found out about their relationship and has now sent those two children to come live with anonymous and her partner.  Anonymous says she loves her partner’s kids but says she’s struggling with now raising 4 children, and says she bares most of the burden of taking care of the 4 children.  Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this.

Ask a Man 11 Feb '25: 'Am I emotionally disconnected?'

Anonymous says she was married for 5 years and divorced her husband in 2023. Anonymous says later that year she got into a long distance situationship with a new guy.  Anonymous says communication is a bit of a problem in their relationship, she says he tends to disappear for days without saying anything and she leaves things that way but he has complained that he feels like her behaviour indicates that she is not that into him.  Anonymous is wondering if she really is disconnected in the relationship, she says every other aspect of the relationship is good, and doesn’t know what to do.

Ask A Man 10 Feb '25: 'Tired of being disrespected by my partner's family.'

Anonymous says she got married to her partner in 2020 after a year of being together and just before they had their first child.  Anonymous says at the beginning of their marriage she noticed that he wasn’t being fully transparent about his finances and she confronted him about that and that’s when he came clean and revealed details of the money he’s spending on his mom.  Anonymous says as time went by, her husband’s mother started calling anonymous, telling her that since she came into her son’s life, he doesn’t support her financially like he used to before he got married to anonymous.  Anonymous says her partner’s mother and other family members don’t have boundaries and are often rude when speaking to anonymous. Anonymous says she’s spoken to her partner about this but he doesn’t seem to be confronting his family about their behaviour.

Ask A Man 07 Feb '25: 'My partner is angry at me for speaking to my ex.'

Anonymous says she met an amazing guy last year in July, after breaking up with a man who she says was toxic and a serial cheater.  Anonymous says the relationship with the new guy has been going well but recently she unblocked her toxic ex and he ended up calling her and they spoke on the phone.  The issue now is that anonymous’ current partner found out about this call and is now angry at anonymous for unblocking her ex and not telling her current partner about this call.  Anonymous says she had told her partner about her ex and how horrible he was to her. Anonymous says her partner is now not speaking to her and won’t hear her out, she doesn’t know what to do.

Ask a Man 06 Feb '25: 'Is my partner over me?'

Anonymous says she started dating her partner in 2009 while she was in matric. She says the relationship went well and they eventually got married and now have 3 kids together.  Anonymous says in 2022 while she was pregnant with their third child she found out that her husband had impregnated someone else. Anonymous says this caused a rift in their relationship and she ended up in a situation where she was fighting to get him back and he was refusing.  Anonymous says her husband then lost his job and she took him back in her life an supported him, even when she lost her job, she used the little that she had to help him.  Anonymous says he then found a job, but left her and moved back home to his family’s home, where the lady he impregnated lives.  Anonymous says he’s supporting the children financially but their relationship is strained and she doesn’t know what to do.

Ask A Man 05 Feb '25: 'He's moved on, but I'm struggling to do the same.'

Anonymous says she got married to her high school sweetheart in 2017 and says their relationship was generally great. Anonymous says they had a child in 2019, but things got weird in 2023 when his behaviour changed and he was always irritable and seemed to be annoyed by her. Anonymous says the communication in their relationship also faded.  Anonymous says she eventually caught him cheating on her and after she confronted him about it, he said nothing and just moved out of their home. Anonymous says he’s still with the lady he cheated on her with and has even introduced that lady to his family.  Anonymous says she’s struggling to move on.

Ask A Man 04 Feb '25: 'I'm cheating on my cheating wife.'

Anonymous says he got married to his wife back in 2017 and shortly after they got married she started having an affair with her ex. Anonymous says he confronted her about this and she asked him for forgiveness, which he gave her but told her that something was broken between and that there would be consequences of her actions.  Anonymous says 5 years after his wife cheated on him, he ran into his high school sweetheart and he started having an affair with her. Anonymous’ wife now knows that he’s having an affair with his ex and he feels like he’s more in love with his ex than he is with his wife.  Anonymous says he never got over the cheating and doesn’t know how to move forward from here.

Ask a Man 03 Feb '25: 'We're married but our families don't know.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 10 years and they have a child together. When she called in last year she shared how she felt like her partner was not contributing financially in their household.  Anonymous says that situation has persisted and another thing is that they are in a civil marriage but their families are not aware of this situation.  Anonymous says he keeps coming up with financial excuses about why they can’t have an African traditional marriage, but she just doesn’t understand this. Anonymous is worried she might have made a mistake by marrying him.

Ask a Man 31 Jan '25: 'Are we moving too fast?'

Anonymous says she met a guy during our singles week here on Break Away last December. Anonymous says after he slides into her DMs things went well and she says he even involved her in many aspects of his life.  Anonymous says when the guy was looking for a new apartment, he roped her in and asked her to pick the apartment as she would also live there with him.  Anonymous says he’s said “I love you” to her and wants to introduce her to his family. Anonymous is worried that things are moving too fast between them.

Ask a Man 30 Jan '25: 'I'm living with my ex and it's miserable.

Anonymous says he was with his ex for a while and they even ended up buying a house together. Anonymous says during the course of the relationship, his partner cheated on him several times and he kept forgiving her until he couldn’t.  Anonymous says they ended up breaking up, however, they still live in the house together and the mood in the house is very tense and they are struggling to live with each other. Anonymous says selling the house is hard because of the current market conditions in their area. Anonymous feels stuck in this situation and doesn’t know what to do.

Ask a Man 29 Jan '25: 'Should I get back with my baby making ex?'

Anonymous says she met a guy in 2021 and says things were generally good in their relationship to point where they started trying for a baby.  Anonymous says the guy had fertility issues but eventually got medication and she fell pregnant but later miscarried.  Anonymous says she found out the guy was cheating on her and he even impregnated another woman which led to anonymous breaking up with him.  Anonymous says time went by and the guy reached out to her wanting to get back together, however, he now has a second baby with another woman. Anonymous is not sure if she should get back together with him, especially because he now has two children. 

Ask a Man 28 Jan '25: 'The one that got away?'

Anonymous says after going through a break-up in 2023, she went through a lot of anxiety and had to do a lot healing from that break-up. Anonymous says the issue now is a friend she’s known for most of her life that she has always sort of had feelings for but they never got together.  Anonymous says after her break-up they became closer with this guy and he eventually confessed his feelings for anonymous but she pushed him away because she wasn’t emotionally ready.  Fast forward to now, anonymous reached out to the guy and they linked up just last night but after anonymous asked, he revealed that he’s now in a relationship with someone else whom he really loves.

Ask a Man 27 Jan '25: 'I'm not ready to tell my parents about him.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for almost 6 years and their relationship has been good. Anonymous says her partner has introduced her to his parents but she hasn’t introduced him to her parents.  Anonymous says this has caused a rift in their relationship because it limits the kind of activities they can do as a couple and that limits their relationship in general.  Anonymous says her partner has brought this up and wants anonymous to tell her parents about him. She’s not sure about that as her parents are very strict and she would rather complete varsity first, before telling them.

Ask a Man 24 Jan '25: 'She cheated on me and now want's me back.'

Anonymous says he has 3 children with his partner and things were fine in their relationship until he found out, via texts on his partner’s phone, that she was busy with someone at the gym.  Anonymous says he confronted her about this, but she turned things on him and would even insult him. Anonymous says she eventually made it clear that she wanted to be with the other guy and that’s when they went their separate ways.  Anonymous says time has gone by and his financial situation has improved. They now have a good co-parenting relationship, and she wants to get back together. Anonymous says he still loves her but he’s not sure if he should get back together with him.

Ask a Man 23 Jan '25: 'Sex breaks and infidelity'

Anonymous says he’s been dating his partner for a few years now and back in 2021 she said to anonymous that she no longer want’s to have sex for religious reasons and wants them to save themselves for marriage.  Anonymous says despite this, he found out that she was actually sleeping with someone else. Anonymous says he forgave her and they moved on with the relationship. Anonymous says time went by and she once again said she wants to pause on the sex and he realised that this time around she was serious about her religion.  Anonymous says he then cheated on her with someone else and she ended up finding out...

Ask a Man 22 Jan '25: 'He wants to date both of us.'

Anonymous says she met a guy last year and things were not too serious when they started as they were both in relationships with other people.  Anonymous says they ended up agreeing to break up with their partners, she broke up with her partner but later realised that he hadn’t broken up with his partner.  Anonymous says he’s still in a relationship with the other lady and he can’t seem to decide what he wants and has floated the idea of continuing with dating both of them. Anonymous is not sure if she should stay in a relationship with him, as she really loves him.

Ask a Man 21 Jan '25: 'Juggling three guys'

Anonymous says she’s been with her current partner, guy no.1,  for about 8 years and says he has a child with another woman who she believes he might be married to traditionally.  Anonymous says guy no.1 also cheated on her multiple times and threatened to kill anonymous if she ever leaves him. However, she says they ended up separating at some point and that’s when she met guy no.2, who is a married man and they’ve been together for about 3 years, she says he’s very supportive and there’s conversations about getting into a polygamous marriage.  Anonymous says she then met guy no.3 about 5 months ago, their relationship has been going well, she gets along with his family, and she feels like she’s in love with him, however anonymous says she thinks they are not really compatible and she’s not sure about building something with him.

Ask a Man 20 JAN '25: 'My partner is over me.'

Anonymous says he met his partner about two years ago and they dated for a while before she fell pregnant.  Anonymous says things have gotten a bit weird in their relationship and he confronted his partner about feeling a gap between them. Anonymous says during that conversation he asked her what he did wrong and she responded that she feels like he’s too soft for her and doesn’t really enjoy anonymous’ personality or his dress style. Anonymous says she now wants to break-up with him, he doesn’t want to break-up with her. Anonymous says he’s not sure if he should fight for her.        

Ask a Man: 'Struggling to get back into the dating game.'

Anonymous says she got married in 1994 after knowing her partner for 3 months. Anonymous says months into the marriage she noticed strange things at her partner’s family home, including a small snake, at which point she moved back home.  They eventually moved into their own place and even had children. Anonymous says after up-skilling herself and getting a job, her partner started financially and emotionally abusing her and things were never great in their relationship from that point.  Anonymous says this went on for years and she eventually filed for divorce in 2020. Anonymous says it’s been a few years now since the divorce and she’s feeling lonely but struggling to get back into the dating game.

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Ask A Man 15 Jan '25: 'My partner abuses my son.'

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 6 years and they a 2 year-old daughter together and she came into the relationship with a child who’s now 6 years old.  Anonymous says things were fine but over the years she feels like her partner has become emotionally abusive and manipulative. Anonymous says a lot of the abuse is towards her 6 year-old child and he’s always chiding her child for various unreasonable issues.  Anonymous says she’s spoken to him about his behaviour towards her child but he’s not changing and even physically abuses her son. Anonymous says she want’s to end things but is not sure how to go about doing that, especially because they have a child together.

Ask A Man 13 Jan '24: 'Am I the biological father?'

Anonymous says he was in a relationship with a lady for many years and things were fine until her ex came back into he picture and wanted to be with this lady.  Anonymous says this caused a lot of conflict in their relationship, however, the situation was muted when this lady realised she was pregnant. Anonymous says after the baby was born the lady went back to her cheating ways and it led to him breaking up with her.  Anonymous says she’s not allowing him access to their child and when he threatened to bring in social workers, she insinuated to him that the child might not even be his. Anonymous is not sure how to go about determining the paternity of the child or how to process the fact that the child might not be his.

Ask a Man 14 Jan '25: 'My ex is caught between me and another man.'

Anonymous says the relationship with his ex was great and they had access to each others phones. Anonymous says he would see pictures of other guys on her phone but she denied there was anything happening with those guys.  Anonymous says things took a turn when she went on what she said was a vacation with her cousins and some other guys, but anonymous later realised that she was actually on vacation with her other boyfriend.  Anonymous says they fought about this and she essentially isn’t sure what she wants to do, anonymous says he has removed himself from the situation but now he’s not sure if he wants to try again with her.

Ask A Man - 13 Dec '24: A love twist for the 2024 finale.

We switched things up a little on the last episode of Ask a Man for the year; We requested listeners to share their relationship good news and stories of supportive partners. 

Ask A Man 02 Dec '24: 'Caught between good sex and financial support.'

Anonymous says she was married to her husband for 10 years when he passed away in 2022. Anonymous says her late husband’s friend got close to her and was supportive and they eventually kissed.  Anonymous says shortly after this they made an arrangement, anonymous would have sex with her late husband’s friend and the friend would support anonymous financially. Anonymous says the friend is married. Anonymous says the arrangement continued but in June this year she met a new guy who she really likes and she ended things with the friend. Her relationship with the new guy was going well until this new guy found out about anonymous’ relationship with her late husband’s friend who was still calling anonymous.  Anonymous is not sure if she should fight for the relationship with the new guy.

Ask a Man 11 Dec '24: 'Financial ties are keeping me in this toxic relationship.'

Anonymous says she’s been married to her partner since 2021, after knowing the guy for a year. Anonymous says when she met him, she was aware of his wild ways in his previous relationship where he cheated multiple times and had children outside of that relationship.  Anonymous says he became even worse in their marriage, where he even cheated on her with her best friend and would bring all kinds of girls to their place, anonymous says he’s fathered 3 children outside their marriage.  Anonymous says she eventually moved to another province so she could fade away from their relationship but her husband packed up and joined her in that province saying he loves her and she assumed he was serious.  Anonymous says he’s continued with his shenanigans but she’s struggling to leave their relationship because she feels like she’s too financially linked to him.

Ask A Man 10 Dec '24: 'Struggling to get over my cheating ex'

Anonymous says he was with his partner for 6 years and they met in varsity. Anonymous says at some point their relationship became a long distance relationship after leaving varsity, and for many years they were living in separate areas.  Anonymous says they were eventually both able to live in the same area, however, things took a turn in their relationship when he realised that his partner had been cheating on him by going on dates with other people.  Anonymous says he broke up with her because cheating is a dealbreaker for him. But months later he’s struggling to get over his love for her. Anonymous says he tried therapy and journaling but the only thing that makes him feel better is chatting to her.

Ask A Man 09 Dec '24: 'My partner wants to start on a clean slate after cheating multiple times.'

Anonymous says he started dating his partner in 2022 and in the same year he found out that she was having an affair and cheating on him. Anonymous says his partner denied this and they moved forward.  Anonymous says in 2023 he once again found out that she was cheating on him and yet again, his partner denied the cheating. Anonymous says she then fell pregnant with his child late last year.  Cut to 2024 and anonymous says he found out once again that she was cheating on him and this time around she finally admitted it and admitted to anonymous that she had been cheating on him all those other times.  Anonymous says she now wants to start on a clean slate, he still loves her but is not sure if he should continue with the relationship.

Ask A Man 06 Dec '24: 'My messy ex wants to get back together.'

Anonymous says she was a dating a guy about 5 years ago and he was cheating on her and the girl he was cheating on her with would harass anonymous, to a point where anonymous got a restraining order against her but the guy said to her that he didn’t want any involvement in the situation. Anonymous says they eventually broke up however she fell pregnant with this guy’s child and says he wasn’t supportive and only came back into anonymous’ life 8 months after the child was born and tried to get back into anonymous’ life, but that didn’t work out.  Fast forward to now, anonymous says she’s now been in a relationship with someone else for 3 years and the father of her child is back in her life again and the same girl is back to harassing anonymous again. Anonymous says the guy wants to be back together with her, and said he’ll support the child only if they are back together.

Ask A Man 05 Dec '24: 'Anonymous lied, I wasn't a serial cheater.'

Background: Yesterday anonymous called and spoke of a guy no.1 and a guy no.2. She said things were not great with guy no.1 because he was always cheating on her. Anonymous then met guy no.2 and dated both of them at the same time but eventually broke up with guy no.1, anonymous said she’s now with guy no.2 and called about their current issues.  This morning we’re speaking to guy no.1 who says he needs to set the record straight: He says he wasn’t a serial cheater and things weren’t great between them because of the financial issues he was facing.  Anonymous also says guy no.2 is someone he knows and used to hangout with.  Guy no.1 says he found out from a friend that anonymous was cheating on him with guy no.2 and he broke up with her.  Guy no.1 says he’s back together with anonymous currently and after calling Ask a Man yesterday, anonymous told guy no.1 that she’s done with guy no.2 and they spent the night together last night. Guy no.1 is not sure what to do in this situation.

Ask A Man 04 Dec '24: 'My partner is insecure and lazy'

Anonymous says she met at guy no.1 early last year, they started dating and moved in together by December of last year.  Anonymous says he cheated on her throughout their relationship and she then started dating someone else, guy no.2. Anonymous says she was juggling the two guys for a bit before breaking up with guy no.1.  Anonymous says she’s now dating guy no.2 but she struggles with him because he’s insecure, unemployed,  and she feels like he’s lazy. Anonymous says he’s policing her and thinks it’s based on the fact that she was dating someone else when they met each other.

Ask A Man - 03 Dec '24: 'My girlfriend thinks I cheated on her.'

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for two years and they lived together initially but decided to move into their own places at some point in their relationship.  Anonymous says the situation in their relationship right now is that he went out with his girlfriend’s neighbours and on the way back home to his girlfriend’s apartment he ran into his girlfriend’s neighbour and they walked home together.  When they got to the apartment block the girl realised she had the wrong keys and then took shelter with anonymous in his girlfriend’s apartment, and they ended up fetching the keys.  Anonymous says he was at his girlfriend’s place with his cousin, something his girlfriend didn’t want, so when she got back home the next morning she was upset about this.  Anonymous says his partner also later found out that he was in her apartment with her female neighbour and got upset about that. Anonymous says his girlfriend is now angry at him as she believes something happened between them.

Ask A Man 02 Dec '24: 'He shows very little affection and is always out partying.'

Anonymous says she’s known the guy she’s currently dating for many years starting from when they were in varsity.  Anonymous says years later after they started knowing each other they started a no strings attached relationship, however the guy disappeared on her after he got a job.  Anonymous says during their time apart the guy tried to rekindle things with her but she was in a relationship with someone else, which lasted 5 years. When that ended, anonymous reached out to the guy and they started linking up again and eventually got into a more serious relationship.  Anonymous says the guy now lives at her place, and at some point he was unemployed, so she was supporting him. Anonymous adds that she feels like he never shows that he loves her, he never posts her on social media or shows that he’s aware of her needs.  Anonymous says he’s always going out and coming back in the early hours of the morning. She’s not sure if she should remain in the relationship.

Ask A Man 29 Nov '24: 'I have to hide from my partner's "estranged" wife.'

Anonymous says she’s recently widowed and has now started dating again. She says she met a guy in October and they hit it off.  Anonymous says things have been good and he treats her well, however, he revealed to her that he’s actually in a long distance marriage but things are not working out in that marriage because of some issues, including the fact that the guy travels around a lot because of his job.  Anonymous says they’ve continued dating but now the guy sometimes doesn’t want anonymous to come over or leave her things at his place when she’s visiting because he’s worried his wife will find out about their relationship.  Anonymous says she’s not sure if she should continue with this relationship.

Ask A Man 28 Nov '24: 'Sneaky Links and baby mamas.'

Anonymous says she’s been her partner for 4 months and says that she crushed on him for a long time before they started dating.  Anonymous says at the onset of their relationship he would get calls from a mystery lady who he initially said was his sister but it later turned out that it was actually the mother of his child & they his in what he described as a “complicated” relationship with her. Anonymous says they continued with their relationship, however, while they were attending a function inside her partner’s complex he ended up in an altercation with a different lady during the function. Anonymous says he later confessed that the lady used to be a sneaky link and also that he’s actually still in a relationship with the mother of his child.  Anonymous doesn’t know if she should stick with him. 

Ask A Man 27 Nov '24: 'My partner won't forgive me for flirting with another guy.'

Anonymous says she met a guy in March last year and they started dating. She says things were fine until the guy found texts on her phone from another guy who was flirting with her, even though she wasn’t reciprocating.  Anonymous says after this incident things were no longer the same in their relationship and the guy would always bring up the incident. Anonymous maintains that the texts with the other guy were innocent on her part, and she wasn’t doing anything with the other guy.  Anonymous says since January this year, the guy has a habit of disappearing and reappearing in her life. He says he loves her but anonymous is not sure what to think of all of this.

Ask A Man 26 Nov '24: 'Is my partner in the closet?'

Anonymous says her dating life has been a bit of a struggle, however she met a guy 3 months ago who she suspects is gay.  Anonymous says she confronted him about this, she first revealed that she’s been with a girl and asked if he had been with a guy before. Anonymous says her partner told her that he’s only flirted with a guy before, and things didn’t go too far.  Anonymous says he’s also only ever touchy with her when they are in public but doesn’t show the same affection privately. Anonymous says she suspects he’s in the closet and even ended up blocking him for two days because of this. Anonymous says they are communicating again now, but she’s still not sure.

Ask A Man 25 Nov '24: 'She interested only when I have money.'

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 13 years and a few years ago he started the lobola proceedings but ended up cancelling as his partner was started changing on him because he became unemployed.  Anonymous says when this happened her partner said their child would no longer visit his parents as they are not married. Anonymous says he eventually found employment again and she’s still around but he’s told her that he’s not sure about her anymore because how she’s treated him in the past.  The current conflict in their relationship now is the people anonymous has listed as beneficiaries of his estate ,which is his mother & their child. Anonymous is not sure about this relationship and her behaviour.

Ask A Man 22 Nov '24: 'My partner and I keep going back and fourth.'

Ask A Man 21 Nov '24: 'My boyfriend just told me he has a wife.'

Anonymous says she met her partner about a year ago and says they got into a relationship, which anonymous says is her first relationship ever.  Anonymous says things have been going well in their relationship, however, she says before he could meet her family, he revealed to her that he’s actually married and wants anonymous to become his second wife.  Anonymous says there were no red flags and this confession hit her by complete surprise. Anonymous says their relationship has been amazing and she’s not sure if she wants to continue and become his second wife.  

Ask A Man 20 Nov '24: 'Is he really serious about me or was it all about the money?'

Anonymous says her and her current partner started working on businesses together early on in their relationship and things were generally ok until she realised that he would receive money from their clients and not be transparent with anonymous about the amounts as they were paid into his company.  Anonymous says her job at the time did not allow her to have side hustles, so they did business using his company.  Anonymous says they stayed together at her place because he couldn’t afford to pay for his own place but after the successes in the business he was upgrading his house without even speaking to anonymous about it.  Anonymous says after all this and some issues they had with their children, her partner told anonymous that he was moving back into his place and they would proceed to live in separate homes but remain a couple.  Anonymous says the relationship has faded since then, he’s tried to rekindle things but anonymous says she’s not sure and he’s also burnt bridges with her family through his treatment of her. 

Ask A Man 19 Nov '24: 'I Can't Lose My Ben-6'

Anonymous says she met a guy two weeks ago and they’ve been dating for 4 days. Anonymous says he’s in his early twenties, she’s in her mid-twenties, and things are going really well so far. Anonymous says her business is down the road from where the guy lives and a couple of days ago they got intimate with the guy which led to him arriving home past his curfew. Now his family has found out about their relationship and they are not happy. Anonymous says they now want the guy to move away from the area and she’s not sure what to do. She feels like she really likes him and doesn’t know if she should chat to his family about their relationship. Anonymous is also not sure if this is worth a fight.